Changing How We think, To Functionally Adapt

As early as in utero, you began your journey and transformation into you. Learning and adapting to the changing environment of your mother’s womb.  The foreign sounds outside and sensations of your hand touching your face were new experiences. These memories were filed somewhere in your memory. You gained an awareness of the limitations of the space you occupied, even letting mom know as you kicked. These were the first steps to independence.

Once born, you grew so quickly, feeling the touches of your parental caregivers. The smells hungered you as well as caused your nose to crinkle. There was so much to learn, as you absorbed new experiences and adapted to new changes. You were dependent on your parental caregivers for survival. As an infant, your needs may have been met or maybe not. You have an emotional memory of this as you were too young for words. Sometimes not knowing how or where to sort this information you simply filed it in a space that made sense at the time. Life seemed predictable but sometimes it wasn’t. 

As you entered the school aged years, you were met with a sense of loss, as you learned to separate from your parental caregivers. You trusted that they would return for you. It was a new time for new knowledge but sometimes not met with acceptance. You may have or may have not adapted. 

These events of change, knowledge and adaptation continued on through high school and into independent adulthood. Learning and adapting, being transformed by a multitude of experiences attached to feelings and emotions, some you chose to embrace and some not wanting to remember. You experienced trauma by your definition, and learned who to trust. You loved and continue to do so or maybe not.  As a result, these life experiences have transformed you into a beautiful human being, but as in the case of the Dragonfly where instinct developed out of necessity, what may be instinctual can actually be the source of fear, anxiety, depression, distress, pain, and misery. The good news is we can reprocess & learn how to think, feel, and behave outside of instinct!